Standing Tall In Your Own Mall

The other day I decided to come visit some of my family out in Goodland, KS, a small rural area east of Denver.  I don't get much time to visit for two main reasons. The first reason is that it's about a 3 hour drive and I'm always working and needing to get stuff done to build my businesses.  Secondly, I can't stand to be around people that think and talk about nothing but the past and other people. What I'm about to write doesn't mean I don't love my family.  All I’m saying is that being around the wrong kinds of people could be the determining make up of how far you go. It's just really important to be cautious of what you allow into your mind.  Although friends and family don't mean harm, or they just don't understand, you are responsible for what you take in. I call this learning to walk tall in your own mall.

If you walk into a mall, you'll notice there are different stores.  These different stores will give you a certain type of feeling when you walk into them. I know that if I walk into the Apple store at my local mall it gives me a different feeling than if I walk into the Dick's Sporting Goods Store.  And I certainly get a completely different feeling if I walk into the Victoria's Secret store!

I think that life can be this same way. It's like we have choices of what stores we want to enter into in life which will determine the feeling they give us. I decided to visit family this weekend, which I knew I would create a certain feeling from being there.  My family, although great people, love to talk about other people and the past. They never seem to discuss future goals or creating things. There's nothing wrong with the fact that these topics are the leaders of their decisions.  But from my experiences big thinkers and people creating and making huge differences in the world are people not talking about other people or about the past.  Big thinkers, and people I refer to as pioneer doers.  They are people that talk about the NOW and places and things they want to do to make a bigger difference in the world. 

So here's how I feel after being around this for more than 3 hours,  Yes, I've actually learned my tolerance levels for this kind of thinking. It's about 3 hrs and then I want to leave and be away from it for at least 3 to 6 months. People may call this mean and my family can mock me about it every time they see me on how I don't come around much. All I will say is that I have a really low tolerance for this kind of thinking. 

So you may be asking why it is that I have such a low tolerance for gossip, past-thinking and non- productive thinking? It's because it makes me feel like crap. I'm a forward thinker and I understand that to think is to create. I've also experienced in my own life and have read enough about other great people's lives that if you think about how broke you are, you'll continue to be broke (if not more broke). I know that the way we think creates our reality. I understand that if you walk around life talking about other people and past issues of what went wrong and why the world is so bad, you'll continue to attract the same reality into your present.

What I'm talking about is not "New Age." I'm not even going as far as saying it's spiritual. I'm not preaching to people. All I'm saying is these are simple laws of the Universe, and this stuff I'm talking about has even been proven in the study of meta-physics and quantum physics. There's hard data and proof to back up what I'm talking about.

Once you become more in tune with your body, you'll become more aware of your surroundings.  You will start to notice the way you feel around this kind of stuff and how it makes you feel a certain way. Before you know it you are walking around feeling bad and the things that show up in your life start to appear just like the way you feel.  If you've ever wondered why some people continue to get the same negative results over and over it's because they continue to have the same negative thoughts over and over.

Until you become cautious of thoughts and ideas that go into your head you'll continue fighting yourself over and over. It's a tough battle when you’re fighting yourself. This is why you hear successful people say the same thing. They say, "The most important thing to success is being cautious of your environment and what goes into your head." I'm not saying to not hang around with your friends and family. All I'm saying is to consider the thoughts and ideas that come into your head.  Do they make you feel a certain way? They will create your future. To me it's not worth being around certain friends and family for long periods of time because I can't stand listening to nonsense in my mind.

So here are my words of advice -

Next time you’re walking into your own mall of life where you have different choices and selections you can choose from, pick you stores correctly. This means you pick your conversations, you pick your people to be around, and you pick the way you feel by not allowing other people’s sticky thinking to determine how you should feel.

My friend sent me this yesterday. - 

"Great minds discuss ideas. Average minds discuss places and things. Small minds discuss other people!" Jeff Trills